So after sleeping with the scientist and having one text back and forth, I haven’t heard from him in two weeks. 

I am so pissed – I thought he would have been less of a jerk – he seemed so nice. 

It’s one thing to decide that we aren’t a fit and to let me know versus just dropping off the face of the earth and not responding. I am trying not to be a crazy person or a stalker or whatever but it still ticks me off that he hasn’t felt the desire to even respond. 

I know my reaction is stupid and that there was and is no expectation of more but we did discuss other get togethers and then nothing..l 

MORE followup – I write him and say I am sad that I haven’t heard from him and surmise that he didn’t feel there was a fit because of this. 

He writes back and I am very grateful to know how he feels. He is very complementary of me, my looks, my art, my house and getting to know me but then says he feels like I haven’t really gotten to know him – that the conversation was one sided. 

I am mortified — I thought that I had talked to much the first date and tried the second to draw him out but he was so good at asking questions and drawing me out that I guess I monopolized the conversation again. I feel terrible because I do like him and want to know more about him. 

I tell him this and apologize for making him feel that way. 

He is gracious and says he would like to go out again. Woot! And tells me he didn’t mean to make me feel bad, just wanted me to know his feelings. We are off to a good start here in terms of open communication. 

So I invite him to the Alabama Shakes concert in a couple of weeks. And he says yes. 

So I will see him in a bit. And my goal for that evening is to try to no talk about myself at all without it being awkward.