I had another date with ________. I was a bit nervous because he is out of type, generally says he wants monogamy and the is not where I am right now so wanted to make sure I at least have the conversation about where I am.

He picked me up and brought me a gorgeous gardenia in a small vase. He is a super romantic – and this is part of what makes me nervous. His level of intensity isn’t matching mine. I keep thinking about the art director…

We start walking down the hill and I mention that we will have to take the bus to bart and ask how he got here, i.e. where was his car. And he said he drove and was parked on my street. So we walk back up the hill, get in the car and drive to Bart. Park and then take Bart to Oakland where we get off at 19th.

We pass by the Soundroom – which has student jazz showcase going on – I use the rest room – and we talk about coming there to listen to music, but head on our way to the First Friday art murmur.

We walk down the street and there are booths set up but we don’t stop. We don’t go into any of the galleries but walk on to the end and then decide we want to get food and a drink and sit down. So we head down  the side street and get sidetracked into a warehouse filled with amazing classic cars and a beer garden and then out the side and down to Mua. 

Amazingly we get a table and have a great dinner.

In our conversations he talks about how he is having difficulty reconnecting with me and it takes awhile to warm up and reconnect and he says he wants to see me more often. We also then talk about having a sexual relationship and I tell him I would be interested in that but he has to be ok with the fact that I am seeing other people, sleeping with other people and that we will have to practice safe sex and that I am not interested in being exclusive.

So if he can handle that and accept that then I would very much like to move into a sexual relationship with him. Then he talks about getting tested and I say I need to as well – it’s time – so that’s on our to do list before we sleep together. 

We keep talking and having a nice time – I am learning about him and him about me and I am warming up to the fact that he is out of type but I am attracted to him as well.

We head out after dinner and start the walk back to BART and come upon a jam band on the corner of one of the streets. They are terrific – playing funk – and we stay and listen for awhile until they start breaking down to leave. Turns out he knows the horn players.

We kiss and walk and barely make it onto BART back to SF. 

Back to his car and he drives me home and I kiss him goodnight. We are seeing some mote music on Monday – a nod to his need to see more of me a little closer together.